Author: Anna Gonzales
Title: Selfishly Second
Subtitle: How Not Putting Yourself First Serves Nobody
For the designers- This book is about how most of us will give and give to others, and never take the time needed to do things for ourselves. We spend our time, money and resources by putting others first instead of thinking about and pursuing our own dreams. The book encompasses a total life approach- dealing with health,money, emotions, career, and family and gives you tools to help you from this point forward in your life.
This book is for all of those good boys and girls who grew up to
be obliging and reliable but frustrated adults others can always depend
on. You give and provide for others first before applying your resources,
money, and time to your own dreams. You base your choices on doing
for others in the name of sacrifice, culture, and how others will judge
you. This book is for you—you who are in the background providing,
caring, and giving their life to appease and please for an approval that
only lasts seconds. You may look back at your life and realize it’s defined
by the needs, ideas, and expectations of others and not your own.
This book is meant to remind you that if it is your goal to care for
others, the best manner is to love and respect yourself and make choices
based on your needs, ideas, and goals. When you are doing what you
want and are meant to do, you can do even more for others. The ability to
build the muscle to live your life by choice becomes satisfying, courageous,
contagious, and most of all, something to be proud of.
I began the journey of choosing for me. It led me to starting a business
that put me front and center. I began saying no to others and yes to me.
My choices are not based on my family, my culture, or my fears. They
are based on my creativity, confidence, and courage. It was not an easy
transition, and not many people understood where I was coming from.
My journey was lonely and full of mistakes.
You can’t effectively lead from the back of the line. You don’t have to
be second in your life, and most of all, you should not be afraid to put yourself first in your life because not doing so is selfish. Being Selfishly
Second is giving up, accepting mediocrity, and giving up your creativity
in the name of martyrdom. Martyrs die, but I want you to become a
legend. Being first is giving and sharing of yourself authentically, and that
is where your endless supply of resources, abundance, and creativity exists.
Based out of Tucson, Arizona, Anna Gonzales is a traveling public
speaker who shares life lessons she learned going from life in the military
to life as a civilian. Available to speak to any and all groups, with a specific
focus on veterans, Gonzales is a personable yet practical person who is
focused on helping guide people to “not put themselves second in life
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